Thursday, October 06, 2011
How to repent for sins in Islam (frm my discussion)
It is important to seek forgiveness to Allah and many of us today forget to do that thinking we are sinners and embarassed to ask for forgiveness. Those who think that way are wrong and still under the shade of shaitaan since shaitaan makes them think that way so they don't repent. If they repent, shaitaan becomes the looser since sincere repentence is surely answered by Allah if Allah wills. So, no matter how big of a sin it is or how small it is , its important to ask forgiveness each and everyday. Everytime you do a sin, turn to Allah you never know Allah will probably give you hidayaa the very next minute and builds in you teh guilt and realization to never go down the path of sinning again. Never underestimate Allah's power and mercy. Today's blog will cover the importance of repentence and the importance of traning yourself to fight against your own nafs in order to stay away from sinning.
O you who believe! Turn to Allaah with sincere repentance! It may be that your Lord will expiate from you your sins, and admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise)”
[al-Tahreem 66:8]
“In these verses, Allaah links expiation of sin and admission to Paradise to sincere repentance, which includes giving up sin and avoiding it, regretting what has happened in the past and sincere resolve never to return to it out of fear and respect for Allaah, hoping for His reward and fearing His punishment.”
With regard to your saying that you repent and then go back to sin, then you repent and then go back to sin, we say to you that even if you go back to sin time and time again, you should repent a great deal and annoy your Shaytaan who is laying in wait for you. Remember that Allaah “spreads out His hand at night to accept the repentance of those who sinned during the day, and He spreads out His hand during the day to accept the repentance of those who sinned during the night, (and this will continue) until the sun rises from the west.” (Narrated by Muslim, 2759)
The gate of repentance is open. Abu Hurayrah said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever repents before the sun rises from the west, Allaah will accept his repentance.’” (Narrated by Muslim, 2703).
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah will accept the repentance of His slave so long as the death rattle has not yet reached his throat.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 2802).
Keep in mind that Allah even forgives unbelievers and hypocrites who fought against Him and His Messenger, if they turn back to Allah with sincere and true repentance:
[The Hypocrites shall be cast into the lowest depths of the Fire: no helper will you find for them; But those who repent, mend their ways, hold fast to Allah, and are sincere in their devotion to Him—they shall be numbered with the believers. And soon Allah will grant to the believers a reward of immense value.] (An-Nisaa’ 4:145–146)
[Those who conceal the clear signs We have sent down, and the guidance, after We have made it clear for the people in the Book—on them shall be Allah’s curse, and the curse of those entitled to curse, except those who repent and make amends and openly declare the Truth. Toward them I shall relent; for I am the Relenting one and Most Merciful.] (Al-Baqarah 2:159-160
Still, there is one kind of repentance Allah will not accept: the insincere repentance offered when death comes to a man. This is actually the moment a man meets the angels of death. Of this the Qur’an says
[Allah accepts the repentance of those who do evil in ignorance and repent soon afterwards; to them Allah will turn in mercy: for Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom. Of no avail is the repentance of those who continue to do evil, until death faces one of them, and he says, “Now have I repented indeed” nor of those who die rejecting Faith: for them We have prepared a painful chastisement.] (An-Nisaa’ 4:17 –18)
In the Qur’an Allah gives the striking example of such an act of repentance made at the last moment. Pharaoh, who chased Moses and the believers in order to kill them, ended by expressing his repentance while he drowned in the sea, a miracle wrought by Allah.
[When the (fate of) drowning overtook him, he said: I believe that there is no god except Him Whom the Children of Israel believe in: I am of those who submit (to Allah in Islam).] (Yunus 10:90)
However Allah’s response to him was as follows:
[Ah now! But a little while before, you were in rebellion! and you perpetrated mischief (and violence!)] (Yunus 10:91)
Since repentance is essential to the eternal salvation of man, one should well be aware of its importance and observe this form of worship to the best of one’s ability. One may have sinned extensively or have rebelled against one’s Creator. Yet, Allah encompasses His servants with so much mercy that He grants eternal salvation in response to a sincere repentance:
[When those who believe in Our signs, come to you say: Peace be upon you: Your Lord has decreed for Himself (the rule of) mercy: truly, if any of you committed evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented, and mended his ways, (he would find) Allah Oft-forgiving and Most Merciful.] (Al-An`am 6:54)
Maghfira: Forgiveness of Allāh, The Glorified and The Exalted
On the authority of Hadrat Anas (may Allāh be pleased with him) who said: I heard Allāh's Prophetic Messenger (may Allāh's blessings and peace be upon him) say:
Allāh the Almighty said: O Son of Ādam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Ādam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask for forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you; O son of Ādam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it. (Tirmidhī) (Hadīth Qudsī)
Hadrat Abū Sa'īd al-Khudrī (may Allāh be pleased with him) relates that the Holy Prophet Muhammad (may Allāh's blessings and peace be upon him) said: A person from amongst a nation of the past, having slain ninety-nine persons, inquired as to who was the most learned person in the world. He was directed to a monk (who had given up the world). He went to the hermit and said: ?I have killed ninety-nine persons. Is there any chance of repentance left for me?" The hermit answered: "No". The man killed the hermit also and completed his century of victims.
The killer asked again, ?Who is the most learned person in this world?? He was directed to a learned man. Accordingly he went to him and said. ?I have killed one hundred persons. Is there any hope of repentance left for me?? The learned man said, "Yes, nothing can stand between you and repentance: Proceed to such and such a land. In this land are (pious) people who worship Allāh. Join them in their worship of Allāh and do not return to your home country because it is an evil place?.
The man started for this land. He had covered only half the distance when he met with his death. A dispute arose between the angel of mercy and the angel of torment as to who should take charge of his soul. The former pleaded that he had come as a penitent turning towards Allāh, and the latter contended that the deceased had never done a good deed.
Then there arrived an angel disguised as a human and the contending angels agreed that he should be the arbiter between them. He directed them to measure the distance between the two lands. To whichever he is nearer, to that one he belongs. So they carried out the measurement and found the land of pious persons to be closer. The angel of mercy thus took charge of him. (Bukhārī and Muslim)
Repentance breeds good deeds, whilst sinning (without repentance) can cause deprivation of obedience altogether. It has been said that committing sins regularly will darken and harden the heart. It may even lead a person to reject Allah completely (Allah forbid) or lead him to commit a bigger sin. There is no recourse for a sinner except to ask Allah for forgiveness and to feel great regret for his actions.
Repentance is to repent from the heart, to train the heart into obedience and to make a firm resolution never to commit the sin again.
The repenting person should remember three facts:
1. The grave consequence of sins.
2. The painful punishment for sins and
3. The helplessness of the servant with regards to these two things.
"Repentance has a door whose span is the distance between East and West," says a hadith (and in another version, its span is the distance travelled in 70 years). "It will not be closed until the sun rises from the west." Listen to the call of Allah, "O’ my slaves! You sin morning and evening and I forgive all your sins. So call on Me, I’ll forgive you all your sins."
Allah extends His hands in the night to forgive the sinner of the day and extends His hands in the day to forgive the sinner of the night. Moreover, He loves to hear excuses. Therefore, why don’t you turn to Him.
[If Allah were to punish men according to what they deserve, He would not leave on the surface of the earth one single living creature: but He gives them respite for a stated term.] (Fatir 35:45)
But man is weak and surrounded by enemies on all sides, and his own self urges him to do evil, and the Shaytaan flows through him like blood, and he lives in this world which is attractive to him… so how can he be safe from these enemies unless Allaah has mercy on him?
However, Hell is surrounded with whims and desires, and Paradise is surrounded with difficulties. So each person must turn to Allaah and ask Him to help him to remember Him and be grateful to Him and to worship Him properly. Abu Bakr came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said to him, “Teach me a du’aa’ that I can say in my prayer.” He said, “Say Allaahumma inni zalamtu nafsi zulman katheeran wa laa yaghfir al-dhunooba illa anta faghfir li maghfiratan min ‘indika warhamni innaka anta al-Ghafoor al-Raheem (O Allaah, I have done great injustice to myself and no one forgives sin except You. Grant me forgiveness from You and have mercy on me, for You are the Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 834; Muslim, 2705).
There was another Sahaabi – one of the best and most knowledgeable of the Sahaabah – to whom the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “I love you, O Mu’aadh.” (Mu’aadh said), “And I love you, O Messenger of Allaah.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do not forget to say in every prayer, ‘Rabbi a’inni ‘ala dhikrika wa shukrika wa husni ‘ibaadatika (O Allaah, help me to remember You, thank You and worship You properly.).’” (al-Nasaa’i, 1303; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i, 1236).
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Nu'man b. Bashir reported: Allah is more pleased with the repentance of a believing servant than of a person who set out on a journey with a provision of food and drink on the back of his camel. He went on until he came to a waterless desert and he felt like sleeping. So he got down under the shade of a tree and was overcome by sleep and his camel ran away. As he got up he tried to see (the camel) standing upon a mound. but did not find it. He then got upon the other mound, but could not see anything. He then climbed upon the third mound but did not see anything until he came back to the place where he had been previously. And as he was sitting (in utter disappointment) there came to him the camel, till that (camel) placed its nosestring in his hand. Allah is more pleased with the repentance of His servant than the person who found (his lost camel) in this very state. Simak reported that Sha'bi was of the opinion that Nu'min traced it to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him). Simak, however, did not hear that himself.
You should give up the sin for the sake of Allaah and not for any other reason such as not being able to do it or repeat it, or being afraid of what people will say, for example. The person who gives up a sin because it may affect his standing or reputation among people, or because it may cost him his job, cannot be described as having repented.
The person who gives up sins for the sake of his health and strength cannot be described as having repented, such as a person who gives up zinaa (adultery) and immoral actions for fear of contagious deadly diseases, or for fear that they may weaken his body and his memory.
The person who refrains from taking a bribe for fear that it may be being offered by undercover officers cannot be described as having repented. The person who gives up drinking alcohol and taking drugs because he has become bankrupt cannot be described as having repented.
Similarly, the person who is unable to commit sin because of something that lies beyond his control cannot be described as having repented, such as a liar who becomes paralyzed and loses the power of speech, or an adulterer who loses the ability to engage in intercourse, or a thief who has an accident and loses his limbs In such cases, a person has to feel regret and stop wishing to commit sin, or he has to feel sorry for what has happened in the past o someone like this the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Regret is repentance.” (narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6802) He should feel repelled by the sin and the harm it causes
This means that sincere repentance cannot be accompanied by feelings of enjoyment and pleasure when remembering past sins, or wishing to go back to it in the future.
– being deprived of blessings – less help from Allaah – anxiety – more bad deeds – getting used to sin – the sinner becomes insignificant in the sight of Allaah – he becomes insignificant in the sight of people – the curse of the animals will be upon him – he will bear marks of humiliation – his heart will be sealed and he will come under the curse (of Allaah) – his du’aa’ will not be answered – cause of mischief on land and sea – loss of gheerah (protective jealousy) – loss of modesty – the blessings of Allaah will disappear – punishment will befall him – terror in the heart of the sinner – falling into the clutches of the Shaytaan – a bad end – punishment in the Hereafter.
“Friends on that Day will be foes one to another except Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)”
[al-Zukhruf 43:67]
Bad friends will curse one another on the Day of Resurrection, so you should keep away from them and break off your friendship with them, and warn others against them if you are not able to call them (to Allaah).
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who, when they have committed Faahishah (illegal sexual intercourse) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allaah and ask forgiveness for their sins; — and none can forgive sins but Allaah — and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know.
136. For such, the reward is forgiveness from their Lord, and Gardens with rivers flowing underneath (Paradise), wherein they shall abide forever. How excellent is this reward for the doers (who do righteous deeds according to Allaah’s Orders)”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:135-136]
Ibn Katheer said: The words “and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done” mean: they repent from their sins and quickly turn to Allaah, and they do not persist in their sin, rather they give it up, and if they do that again they repent to Him.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “A person committed a sin and said: ‘My Lord, I have sinned; forgive me.’ His Lord said: ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave.’ Then as much time passed as Allaah willed, then he committed a sin and said, ‘My Lord, I have sinned; forgive me.’ His Lord said: ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave.’ Then as much time passed as Allaah willed, then he committed a sin and said, ‘My Lord, I have sinned; forgive me.’ His Lord said: ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave,’ – three times…”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7507; Muslim, 2758.
It was said to al-Hasan al-Basri: Would not any one of us feel ashamed before his Lord to seek forgiveness from his sin then go back to it, then seek forgiveness then go back to it? He said: The Shaytaan would like you to feel that way; never give up seeking forgiveness.
Friday, September 30, 2011
The importance of salaah (frm my discussion)
My job is to remind not to see the result nor to change someone. So i m here to jus remind and rest is up to u inshaAllah. Allah will guide In the Quran it says, "so remind them (O Muhammad), u r only a one who reminds. u r not a dictator over them." (Al ghashiyah 21-22).
My discussion of today will hold topics such as importance of salaah and what to do in order to follow a righteous life.The reason for my discussion and remind u guys is because its for ur good and its my responsiblity to tell others what good i apply in my life. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Allah and His angels and the creatures of Heavens and earth, even the ant in its dwelling and the fish in the sea, do send Salat to the one who teaches people (good) beneficial knowledge." (Related by Al-Tirmidhi)
FIrst of all i need to tell u guys importance of namaaz of which u may hav already know but i want to just remind u all . This trick works with me very well .. wen i try to b lazy and neglect the facts of Islam and someone reminds me i jus change for the better. So this is just a reminder of wht u guys already knw yet i m going to tell u mentioning hadith so bear wit me inshaAllah. Abu Huraira (r.a.) reported: I heard the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) saying: "Say, if there is a river at the door of one of you in which he takes a bath five times a day, would any soiling remain on him?" They replied: "No soiling would be left on him." He (pbuh) said: "That is the five (obligatory) salat (prayers). Allah obliterates all sins as a result of performing them".
[Bukhari and Muslim]
The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said:"Anyone amongst you who sat in a place of worship waiting for the prayer is in prayer and his ablution is not broken, the angels invoke blessing upon him (in these words): O Allah! pardon him. O Allah! have mercy upon him."
[Sahih Muslim Book Number: 004, Number: 1399:]
Perform wudoo correctly dont b in a haste 10 or 15 minz of ur namaaz will not give u an alsaar nor will ub late in anything. Make sure u cover urself all the way if u dnt got long sleeve then u hav to make sure ur arms n skin odont show in anyway nor a piece of hair comes out. nor see thru or pants tht r above ur ankle.Think about how its not evem permissible to go out without ur hijab, or by wearing short sleeve or wearing pants tht shows ur ankle so what makes it permissible to cloth that way during salaah?
My father said, "While we were praying with the Prophet (saw) he heard the noise of some people. After the prayer he said, 'What is the matter?' They replied 'We were hurrying for the prayer.' He said, 'Do not make haste for the prayer, and whenever you come for the prayer, you should come with calmness, and pray whatever you get (with the people) and complete the rest which you have missed."
[Sahih Bukhari Volume: 1, Book Number: 11, Number: 608]
When praying remember it as its ur last breath and in a means of conversating with Allah in terms of any distraction of whispers of shaitaan just remmber u r talkin to Allah and how can u disrespect that? How can u call on to Allah n get distracted by shaitaan? And i promise as soon as u remember that Allah is there in the front hearing u listenin to ur prayer u will not get distracted. Take a minute wen u stand for salaah and just let ur mind b fresh only prepared for the salaah n forgetting the world. Its a communication from u to Allah u can give ten minutes of ur life to not thinking of the worldy things and jus devote urself to Allah for ten minutes. Only look towards the front not to ur right or ur left or ur feet during rukoo nor close ur eyes.
Second those of u who do not understand the surahs and meaning of teh terms used in salaah plz memorise those;memorise it so u knw wht u r saying that way u will b able to pay attention to what u r saying. Ignorance is no excuse! Its very important to gain knowledge of IsLAM its not jus hujur and imaams job the Quran was given to all mankind to understand it. Arabic language was given to learn it if u dnt og tthe oppurtunity atleast try to learn the daily recitation so u knw wht u r sayin. If u red the Quran get the one wit translation. SAAY ur surahs properly do not jus blabber anything and go on. Take pause after u recite each line. Listen to the surahs on utube so u can pronounce it smoothly and nicely as u shud. its our responsibilities to ractify any mistakes isnt it? Our hujur wont give justify on our behalf on judgment day nor our parents. Its u who will take ur actions to ur grave n to the judgment day so isnt it ur responsiblity to gain knwoledge and do wahts right?
Third do not be lazy "Verily, I am Allah. There is no god but I: So serve thou Me (only), and establish regular prayer for My remembrance". {Sura Tá-há, ayah #14}
So, we pray to remember Allah nothing else. Prayers will take ur sins away and prevent u from sinning. Imagine so much things u r afraid about and so much u r sinning that u regret about. U r given five daily prayers and to stay pure. How can u sin on the state of purity and if u keep remembering that U gotta pray how can u b involve in haram activities if five daily prayers can keep u away from it. we can see all the prophets used pray to Allah (swt). SubhanAllah look this is the duwaa of Ibráhím (Abraham {AS}) mentioned in the Quran and even he asked Allah (swt) to make him one who establishes regular prayer! May Allah (swt) make us from those.
"O my Lord! make me one who establishes regular Prayer, and also (raise such) among my offspring, O our Lord!, and accept Thou my Prayer." (Sura Ibráhím, ayah # 40) .
SO whats stopping us from making that duwa for ourselves and our family and friends?Narrated AbuHurayrah (RAA) Rasulullah (SAW) said: Five prayers and from one Friday prayer to (the next) Friday prayer is an expiation (of the sins committed in between their intervals) if major sins are not committed. (Sahih Muslim Book 2, Number 0448)
Prayer is a rememberance of Allah and sahitaan tries to keep u away from it in ur busy schedule because he knws u will find peace in namaaz. Prayer acts as a shield against evil. Allah Almighty says in the Quran:
"...Verily, As-salat (the prayer) prevents from Al-Fahsha (i.e. great sins of every kind, unlawful sexual intercourse etc. ) and al-Munkar (i.e. disbelief, polytheism, and every kind of evil wicked deed etc.)..." (29:45)
Prayer can have a very similar effect. If a person remembers five times a day that he will stand on his prayer-mat and address his Lord, it will prevent him from committing the sins that Shaitan has been encouraging him to do. The lesson to be learned from this is that in Islam, there is no leaving "What belongs to God, for God; and what belongs to Caesar, for Caesar." Everything belongs to God. How can a Muslim who worships Allah Almighty during his five daily prayers, be expected to obey others in other aspects of his daily life. There can be no duality of authority in Islam. Allah is the Creator , and His Alone is the right to legislate and demand loyalty. Man is the slave of Allah and should obey Him Alone.
To intentionally neglect even a single prayer is a serious sin for which there can be no compensation. A Muslim is not to miss a prayer even in the terrifying moments of battle, so how can there be justification for missing his prayers in ordinary circumstances. during battle, the Imam leads same ranks of the contingent in one Rakat of the prayer, while the other soldiers continue to fight. The soldiers then change places, and the Imam leads the second group in prayer, while the first resumes fighting. This continues until everyone had prayed. This particular prayer is called Salat-ul-Khauf (Prayer of Fear) because of its unusual circumstances.
Abu Dhar narrated that Allah's Messenger (pbuh) came out in winter when the leaves were falling. He took hold of a branch (and shook it) and its leaves started falling. Then he said:
"O Abu Dhar!" I said, "Labbaik, O Messenger of Allah!" He said, "Whenever a Muslim prays seeking the Pleasure of Allah, his sins start falling like the leaves of this tree." (Musnad Ahmad)
Allah Almighty says:
"Then, there has succeeded them a posterity who have given up prayers (i.e. made their prayers to be lost, either by not offering them or by not offering them perfectly or by not offering them in their proper fixed times, etc.) and have followed lusts. so they will be thrown in Hell. Except those who repent and believe (in the Oneness of Allah and His Messenger Muhammad {pbuh}) and work righteousness. Such will enter Paradise and they will not be wronged in aught." (19:59, 60)
Preceding this verse, the Quran gives the example of many previous Prophets and their guided followers. This particular verse explains that the people who abandon prayer are those who follow their own selfish desires. A man can either obey Allah, or he can obey his own wishes; and this obedience is equated to worship by the Quran:
Have you (O Muhammad {pbuh}) seen him who has taken as his Ilah (god) his own desire? Would you then be a Wakil (a protecting guide) over him?" (25:43
Allah's Messenger (pbuh) described such people as the sales of Dirhams and Dinars, and things have not change much since his time. Today, the Americans are described by a western author as - 'people who worship the dollar for six days a week, and then they turn to God on the seventh day!"
When a heart is filled with love for money, it has no room for Allah, and prayer is the first thing to be abandoned.
In our everyday lives, we smile and say a warm thank-you to the small acts of kindness which others do for us. so what about thanking Allah, Who in His infinite Mercy has provided for every single one of our needs. Just observe the beauty and perfection of the earth around you, and fall down in gratitude to you Lord.
Sunday, September 04, 2011
The change starting to occur in me....
The Prophet said, "Religion is very easy and whoever overburdens himself in his religion will not be able to continue in that way. So you should not be extremists, but try to be near to perfection and receive the good tidings that you will be rewarded; and gain strength by worshiping in the mornings, the nights." (See Fath-ul-Bari, Page 102, Vol 1).
So, many people are misunderstanding that i am trying to be an extremist, taking drastic steps, going too far, making Islam difficult, doing things out of fear now and may change later, or to correct my intention first. To clear out those misunderstandings , i would like to clarify the fact that i am not doing things to satisfy Allah temporarily nor do i keep such intentions to discontinue what i have begun in the near future. INshAllah it is coming from a pure heart and what i have decided will stay for good. My prayer is to stay on the right track and for Allah to give me hidayaa and guide me when i am led astray. With that hope i decided to take steps which may change my life later or for those who are around me.
Yes, it is haraam to listen to music, haram to watch tv, haram to pluq eyebrows, haram to do make up to attract men , forbidden to chat with men, to come in front of guys, to wear tight fitted clothing; it is haram to do anything that will cause fights among your brother\sisters.
Yes, ofcourse no one changes over night and the change should happen by taking one step at a time. Yes, hasty decisions may not last long for near future. But, i am doing this wit the duwaa that inshaAllah i wont change and will only continue what i m doing for the better. I have decided to not pluck my eyebrows anymore, decided to stay away from music and TV as much as possible. I decided to learn about Islam and Hadith more and more in my busy schedule. I decided to wear loose fitted clothing and not do make up to attract men. Now, all these are not gonna happen over night. I just decided to bring that change whereas before i was not even close to thinking about bringing any change whatsoever. So, inshAllah i will change one step a time and slowly but surely. Above all may Allah help me correct my intention before i physically apply everything i have said. so, pray for me everyone.
so, i would like to end my blog with the thought of today:
if you like someone , get married. If you are searching for a groom or a bride, lay out the conditions to your parents of marrying a religious person. But, before all that fix your own faults and flaws and help yourself b religious . The sooner we take those Islamic steps and apply it in our life the better. Because death is unpredictable. Keep your intention straight and rest Allah knows best. Don't let yourself waste time and be involve with what the majority are doing. Because you will be alone in your grave with nothing but your actions and deeds. If you must change , then bring the change today and gradually apply it in your life. Be surely involve with the world but do not forget Allah and your prayer time. May Allah guide u all to the righteousness. Khuda Hafiz FIAmannillah
So, many people are misunderstanding that i am trying to be an extremist, taking drastic steps, going too far, making Islam difficult, doing things out of fear now and may change later, or to correct my intention first. To clear out those misunderstandings , i would like to clarify the fact that i am not doing things to satisfy Allah temporarily nor do i keep such intentions to discontinue what i have begun in the near future. INshAllah it is coming from a pure heart and what i have decided will stay for good. My prayer is to stay on the right track and for Allah to give me hidayaa and guide me when i am led astray. With that hope i decided to take steps which may change my life later or for those who are around me.
Yes, it is haraam to listen to music, haram to watch tv, haram to pluq eyebrows, haram to do make up to attract men , forbidden to chat with men, to come in front of guys, to wear tight fitted clothing; it is haram to do anything that will cause fights among your brother\sisters.
Yes, ofcourse no one changes over night and the change should happen by taking one step at a time. Yes, hasty decisions may not last long for near future. But, i am doing this wit the duwaa that inshaAllah i wont change and will only continue what i m doing for the better. I have decided to not pluck my eyebrows anymore, decided to stay away from music and TV as much as possible. I decided to learn about Islam and Hadith more and more in my busy schedule. I decided to wear loose fitted clothing and not do make up to attract men. Now, all these are not gonna happen over night. I just decided to bring that change whereas before i was not even close to thinking about bringing any change whatsoever. So, inshAllah i will change one step a time and slowly but surely. Above all may Allah help me correct my intention before i physically apply everything i have said. so, pray for me everyone.
so, i would like to end my blog with the thought of today:
if you like someone , get married. If you are searching for a groom or a bride, lay out the conditions to your parents of marrying a religious person. But, before all that fix your own faults and flaws and help yourself b religious . The sooner we take those Islamic steps and apply it in our life the better. Because death is unpredictable. Keep your intention straight and rest Allah knows best. Don't let yourself waste time and be involve with what the majority are doing. Because you will be alone in your grave with nothing but your actions and deeds. If you must change , then bring the change today and gradually apply it in your life. Be surely involve with the world but do not forget Allah and your prayer time. May Allah guide u all to the righteousness. Khuda Hafiz FIAmannillah
Thursday, August 11, 2011
CALLING YOU OUT FOR SALAAH\NAMAAZ
Calling you out for prayers\salaah
I know many Muslims who do not pray their daily salaah or miss it. InshAllah i am writing this blog with the hope whoever reads it will not miss their salaah and encourage their dear ones and any Muslims to start if they havent yet.
Salat or Namaz is the most important and a complete system of worship in Islam. Literal meaning of salat is DUA. Considering salat as insignificant or taking it lightly (Istekhfaf-e-Salat) is a major sin. Both Quran and Ahadeeth emphasize that the salat must be given top priority in our daily life and must never be taken as a lightly or secondary thing.
We committ countless sins everyday whether it is talking to guys in a flirtatious way , letting them talk to u that way, music\tv, not fully covered up, cursing, gossip and whatnot. But, to human is to err thus, whats the harm if you take the time out to repent each day and ask Allah for forgiveness. And the easiest task is to pray five times a day think of all the sins you committ each day and to cover that up there isn't much good deeds we do. So, why leave the prayer and bring more misfortune and sins in to your account. Do not think i don't pray, i am a sinner. A true Muslim is those who repent for their sins and try everyday to not go back to the sinning path they were before. So, you can always start today with full faith and promise to never miss it.
Remember, Allah loves those who commit mistakes and repent: Prophet Muhammad said: “By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if you were not to commit sin, Allah would sweep you out of existence and He would replace (you by) those people who would commit sin and seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would have pardoned them.” [Sahih Muslim].
Hadeeth Holy Prophet (saw) : If salat is accepted by Allah, all good deeds will be accepted, & if salat is rejected, all good deeds will be rejected. Also, the first thing you will be asked on judgment day is whether you performed your daily salaah. So, imagine you stopping yourself from entering paradise KNOWINGLY.
Prophet (saw) said “Prayer is the pillar of your religion and one who intentionally forsakes his prayer has destroyed his religion. And one who does not guard the times of the prayers, shall be made to enter ‘Wayl’, which is a valley in Hell, as Allah, the Exalted, has said: “So woe to the praying ones, who are unmindful of their prayers.” (Biharul Anwar,Volume 82, Page 202)
The Holy Prophet [s.a.w.w.] said: "Be careful of the prayers, for, on the Day of Resurrection, when Allah the Exalted, will bring the servant (for reckoning), the first thing that He will ask him about will be the prayer. If one brings it completely, he will be
of the people of salvation, otherwise, he will be thrown into Fire." (Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 82, p. 202)
There are terrible consequences if one misses salaah.The position of all four madhaahib–Maliki, Shafi’ee, Hanbali, and Hanafi–with no difference of opinion–is that a person who does not pray, ever, is not a Muslim.Think about that. Not a Muslim. Not anyone who has a chance of Paradise.
Hell is so scary people. Hell is so deep that if a stone were to be thrown into it, it would travel for 70 years to reaching at the bottom Hell is infested with venomous snakes and scorpions of the size of donkeys and if they were to bite a person then he or she willsuffer pain for 40 years
Are you scared yet? Allah looks at a person mercifully if they are scared of sinning and carry a repenting heart. Imagine how we cant even stand a humid summer day, we cant stand mosquito bites and if a pinch of blood comes out how it burns? Do you know how worse hell will be? When you pray atleast you can live with the satisfaction that you will be able to have the face to answer on the day of judgment.
Few things you could do when you are lazy is LOUDLY say ALLAH HUAKBAR when you wake up for fajr and iA. it will break your sleep. If you are lazy to do wudoo just close your eyes and picture hell and just run to the bathroom. Fight your sloth , fight the demon that is stopping you. You don't want shaitaan to win by taking you in his line of followers. When you stand up to pray, do not be lazy. Think of how you overcame the laziness to stand up to pray and whats the harm if you pray attentively? When you hear the adhaan, please, pray right away. Because if you don't pray on time , there's punishment for that as well and it will have you slacking to a point, you will miss the time\waqt.
There are punishments you will have to bear in your life if you miss your daily prayer, punishment while you die, there will be punishment in your grave and punishment on judgment day. Who will save you from these punishment? Not our Prophet (SAW), not our mother or friends. Who can save you from hell fire? its you who can just turn your fate around and bring the change for the better hereafter. Ameen.
Heres the end of this blog with the thought of today
Remember that actions are rewarded according to intention. If your alarm clock is not helping, I suggest you use the "buddy system." If you live with family or friends, have someone knock on your door and make sure you're awake. Even if they have to sprinkle some water on your face, have them do that.I have a friend who calls me on fajr time... lately, i stay awake till fajr cuz i m sucha looser.
I know many Muslims who do not pray their daily salaah or miss it. InshAllah i am writing this blog with the hope whoever reads it will not miss their salaah and encourage their dear ones and any Muslims to start if they havent yet.
Salat or Namaz is the most important and a complete system of worship in Islam. Literal meaning of salat is DUA. Considering salat as insignificant or taking it lightly (Istekhfaf-e-Salat) is a major sin. Both Quran and Ahadeeth emphasize that the salat must be given top priority in our daily life and must never be taken as a lightly or secondary thing.
We committ countless sins everyday whether it is talking to guys in a flirtatious way , letting them talk to u that way, music\tv, not fully covered up, cursing, gossip and whatnot. But, to human is to err thus, whats the harm if you take the time out to repent each day and ask Allah for forgiveness. And the easiest task is to pray five times a day think of all the sins you committ each day and to cover that up there isn't much good deeds we do. So, why leave the prayer and bring more misfortune and sins in to your account. Do not think i don't pray, i am a sinner. A true Muslim is those who repent for their sins and try everyday to not go back to the sinning path they were before. So, you can always start today with full faith and promise to never miss it.
Remember, Allah loves those who commit mistakes and repent: Prophet Muhammad said: “By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if you were not to commit sin, Allah would sweep you out of existence and He would replace (you by) those people who would commit sin and seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would have pardoned them.” [Sahih Muslim].
Hadeeth Holy Prophet (saw) : If salat is accepted by Allah, all good deeds will be accepted, & if salat is rejected, all good deeds will be rejected. Also, the first thing you will be asked on judgment day is whether you performed your daily salaah. So, imagine you stopping yourself from entering paradise KNOWINGLY.
Prophet (saw) said “Prayer is the pillar of your religion and one who intentionally forsakes his prayer has destroyed his religion. And one who does not guard the times of the prayers, shall be made to enter ‘Wayl’, which is a valley in Hell, as Allah, the Exalted, has said: “So woe to the praying ones, who are unmindful of their prayers.” (Biharul Anwar,Volume 82, Page 202)
The Holy Prophet [s.a.w.w.] said: "Be careful of the prayers, for, on the Day of Resurrection, when Allah the Exalted, will bring the servant (for reckoning), the first thing that He will ask him about will be the prayer. If one brings it completely, he will be
of the people of salvation, otherwise, he will be thrown into Fire." (Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 82, p. 202)
There are terrible consequences if one misses salaah.The position of all four madhaahib–Maliki, Shafi’ee, Hanbali, and Hanafi–with no difference of opinion–is that a person who does not pray, ever, is not a Muslim.Think about that. Not a Muslim. Not anyone who has a chance of Paradise.
Hell is so scary people. Hell is so deep that if a stone were to be thrown into it, it would travel for 70 years to reaching at the bottom Hell is infested with venomous snakes and scorpions of the size of donkeys and if they were to bite a person then he or she willsuffer pain for 40 years
Are you scared yet? Allah looks at a person mercifully if they are scared of sinning and carry a repenting heart. Imagine how we cant even stand a humid summer day, we cant stand mosquito bites and if a pinch of blood comes out how it burns? Do you know how worse hell will be? When you pray atleast you can live with the satisfaction that you will be able to have the face to answer on the day of judgment.
Few things you could do when you are lazy is LOUDLY say ALLAH HUAKBAR when you wake up for fajr and iA. it will break your sleep. If you are lazy to do wudoo just close your eyes and picture hell and just run to the bathroom. Fight your sloth , fight the demon that is stopping you. You don't want shaitaan to win by taking you in his line of followers. When you stand up to pray, do not be lazy. Think of how you overcame the laziness to stand up to pray and whats the harm if you pray attentively? When you hear the adhaan, please, pray right away. Because if you don't pray on time , there's punishment for that as well and it will have you slacking to a point, you will miss the time\waqt.
There are punishments you will have to bear in your life if you miss your daily prayer, punishment while you die, there will be punishment in your grave and punishment on judgment day. Who will save you from these punishment? Not our Prophet (SAW), not our mother or friends. Who can save you from hell fire? its you who can just turn your fate around and bring the change for the better hereafter. Ameen.
Heres the end of this blog with the thought of today
Remember that actions are rewarded according to intention. If your alarm clock is not helping, I suggest you use the "buddy system." If you live with family or friends, have someone knock on your door and make sure you're awake. Even if they have to sprinkle some water on your face, have them do that.I have a friend who calls me on fajr time... lately, i stay awake till fajr cuz i m sucha looser.
Friday, August 05, 2011
ten ways of protection from shaitaan (greatly needed after Ramadan).
So, i have been reading about seeking repentence and Surah's online and in other books. So, i decided to share few things i do to be protected from shaitaan and u can do that as well to save you from daily sins. iA.
1. Seeking refuge with Allah from Shaytan. Allah the Most High said, “And if there comes to you from Satan an evil suggestion, then seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is the Hearing, the Knowing.” [41:36]
2. Recitation of the two soorahs al-Falaq and an-Nas, as they have wondrous effect in seeking refuge with Allah from his evil, weakening Shaytan and protection from him. This is why the Messenger, (PBUH) said: “No person seeks refuge with anything like the Mu`awwidhatayn (soorahs al-Falaq and an-Nas)”. [an-Nasaa’i, 5337]
3. Recitation of Ayat al-Kursi (2:255).
4. Recitation of Soorah al-Baqarah. The Messenger, (PBUH) said, “The house in which al-Baqarah is recited is not approached by Shaytan.” [Muslim]
5. The final part of al-Baqarah. The Messenger, (PBUH) said, “Whoever recites the two last verses of al-Baqarah at night they will suffice him.” [Muslim]
6. Recitation of the beginning of Soorah Mu’min (Ghafir), until His saying, “wa ilayhi-l-maseer” (to Him is the destination). (i.e. “Ha. Meem. The revelation of the Book is from Allah, the Exalted in Might, the Knowing, the forgiver of sin, acceptor of repentance, severe in punishment, owner of abundance. There is no deity except Him; to Him is the destination.” [40:1-2])
7. Saying “la ilaha ill Allah wahdahu la sharika lah, lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu wa huwa `ala kulli shay’in qadir” (there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah, He has no partner, His is the Dominion and Praise, and He is able to do all things) a hundred times.
8. The most beneficial form of protection from Shaytan: Abundance of remembrance of Allah, the Exalted.
9. Ablution and prayer, and they are from among the greatest means of protection, especially at the time of emergence of anger and desire
10. Abstinence from excess speech, food and mixing with people.
1. Seeking refuge with Allah from Shaytan. Allah the Most High said, “And if there comes to you from Satan an evil suggestion, then seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is the Hearing, the Knowing.” [41:36]
2. Recitation of the two soorahs al-Falaq and an-Nas, as they have wondrous effect in seeking refuge with Allah from his evil, weakening Shaytan and protection from him. This is why the Messenger, (PBUH) said: “No person seeks refuge with anything like the Mu`awwidhatayn (soorahs al-Falaq and an-Nas)”. [an-Nasaa’i, 5337]
3. Recitation of Ayat al-Kursi (2:255).
4. Recitation of Soorah al-Baqarah. The Messenger, (PBUH) said, “The house in which al-Baqarah is recited is not approached by Shaytan.” [Muslim]
5. The final part of al-Baqarah. The Messenger, (PBUH) said, “Whoever recites the two last verses of al-Baqarah at night they will suffice him.” [Muslim]
6. Recitation of the beginning of Soorah Mu’min (Ghafir), until His saying, “wa ilayhi-l-maseer” (to Him is the destination). (i.e. “Ha. Meem. The revelation of the Book is from Allah, the Exalted in Might, the Knowing, the forgiver of sin, acceptor of repentance, severe in punishment, owner of abundance. There is no deity except Him; to Him is the destination.” [40:1-2])
7. Saying “la ilaha ill Allah wahdahu la sharika lah, lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu wa huwa `ala kulli shay’in qadir” (there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah, He has no partner, His is the Dominion and Praise, and He is able to do all things) a hundred times.
8. The most beneficial form of protection from Shaytan: Abundance of remembrance of Allah, the Exalted.
9. Ablution and prayer, and they are from among the greatest means of protection, especially at the time of emergence of anger and desire
10. Abstinence from excess speech, food and mixing with people.
Thursday, July 28, 2011
gossip, just another big sin.
Not all types of rumors and gossip are alike, and some can be more hurtful and damaging than others.
Let’s say you’ve just heard a REALLY juicy rumor about someone you know. It may not be true, but it’s too good to keep to yourself. Your first instinct is to hop online and IM it to all your friends.
We’ve all had that kind of urge. But why?
For Attention? For control or power?To feel superior? To feel as part of the group?out of jealousy or revenge? or boredom? why?!!!
Did anyone ever think that spreading rumours and gossiping about other people will only bring damages in their life and would only take away the goodness off their character?
I don't think so...
Girls gossip so much its part of their daily life. I dont got someone i can call as best friend. I love my family, i dont get too involve wit the society. I try my best to stay away from gossiping and talking ill about others. Its a major sin people , we only harm ourselves by doing so. Think of the life after death , stop your mouth from talking rumours because the loss is yours. Think about it deep!
Teenage girls\boys- gossip about the popular girls\boys in school. Rumours such as someone is dating someone else. Gossiping about another girl's shoes or dressing sense. Bring out her flaws and gossip about it. Whats the point? Did it benefit you in anyway? It only shows you are weak and somewhere down the road you are not happy with yourself which is making you talk about others. smh*
So called friends- some girls back bite the ones they hang out with. Why hang out in the first place? cuz you are simply bored with your life? Need to spice it up? find something better seriously!
Married women\men- gossip about their inlaws . Always got something to say against the other party. Did you think it over that talkin about your inlaws basically means you are talkin shit about your own family. After all your inlaws are the people you spend the rest of your life with , someone you live under the same roof with. Don't forget you left your parents already , you only got one option to accept your in laws and feel love and recieve love. Don't keep yourself away from that by just gossiping which will only make your married life miserable.
Facebook- Or should i say the drama blog for some people? Status messages and wall posts can really backfire on you. Watch what you write to your friends and what you share with the facebook world. Remember you might be giving the gossip queens just another chance to talk about you or someone else.
I will just come to the main point, do not gossip people. Its a major sin and the reason our prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said more women will go to hell because of their gossiping habits. Do you want to ruin your life for the hereafter with your own hands? Becdause of these lowly deeds , one brings harm to themselves. People might not trust you when you gossip, they might not respect you , they will stop communicating with you. Did you think about that before gossiping? You only ruin your character by doing so and only bringing more sins in to your account.
Why do it? its wrong, it may ruin somebody's life. Few wrong words out of your mouth against somebody might make their life miserable. Do you want to be responsible for such thing? Remember, words hurt as much as a punch. Did you know when you spread rumours and the other party believes your rumours, it may lead 'em to make wrong choices in life? So, why do it? no benefits on your side right?
So, here's the end of this blog with the saying of today:
When Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, said (interpretation of the meaning): “neither backbite one another” – as gossip is a transgression against people’s honour – He then said: “Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful” [al-Hujuraat 49:12].
Let’s say you’ve just heard a REALLY juicy rumor about someone you know. It may not be true, but it’s too good to keep to yourself. Your first instinct is to hop online and IM it to all your friends.
We’ve all had that kind of urge. But why?
For Attention? For control or power?To feel superior? To feel as part of the group?out of jealousy or revenge? or boredom? why?!!!
Did anyone ever think that spreading rumours and gossiping about other people will only bring damages in their life and would only take away the goodness off their character?
I don't think so...
Girls gossip so much its part of their daily life. I dont got someone i can call as best friend. I love my family, i dont get too involve wit the society. I try my best to stay away from gossiping and talking ill about others. Its a major sin people , we only harm ourselves by doing so. Think of the life after death , stop your mouth from talking rumours because the loss is yours. Think about it deep!
Teenage girls\boys- gossip about the popular girls\boys in school. Rumours such as someone is dating someone else. Gossiping about another girl's shoes or dressing sense. Bring out her flaws and gossip about it. Whats the point? Did it benefit you in anyway? It only shows you are weak and somewhere down the road you are not happy with yourself which is making you talk about others. smh*
So called friends- some girls back bite the ones they hang out with. Why hang out in the first place? cuz you are simply bored with your life? Need to spice it up? find something better seriously!
Married women\men- gossip about their inlaws . Always got something to say against the other party. Did you think it over that talkin about your inlaws basically means you are talkin shit about your own family. After all your inlaws are the people you spend the rest of your life with , someone you live under the same roof with. Don't forget you left your parents already , you only got one option to accept your in laws and feel love and recieve love. Don't keep yourself away from that by just gossiping which will only make your married life miserable.
Facebook- Or should i say the drama blog for some people? Status messages and wall posts can really backfire on you. Watch what you write to your friends and what you share with the facebook world. Remember you might be giving the gossip queens just another chance to talk about you or someone else.
I will just come to the main point, do not gossip people. Its a major sin and the reason our prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said more women will go to hell because of their gossiping habits. Do you want to ruin your life for the hereafter with your own hands? Becdause of these lowly deeds , one brings harm to themselves. People might not trust you when you gossip, they might not respect you , they will stop communicating with you. Did you think about that before gossiping? You only ruin your character by doing so and only bringing more sins in to your account.
Why do it? its wrong, it may ruin somebody's life. Few wrong words out of your mouth against somebody might make their life miserable. Do you want to be responsible for such thing? Remember, words hurt as much as a punch. Did you know when you spread rumours and the other party believes your rumours, it may lead 'em to make wrong choices in life? So, why do it? no benefits on your side right?
So, here's the end of this blog with the saying of today:
When Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, said (interpretation of the meaning): “neither backbite one another” – as gossip is a transgression against people’s honour – He then said: “Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful” [al-Hujuraat 49:12].
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
The way I am
I don't know why i am writing this may be because i left my journal back in US. Ever since that incident, stopped keeping journals and started writing on my blog.I hope no one finds it , i have written so much that i wouldn't want people to find out about. I am writing this because of few things my mom and my bro say to me all the time. I hope he is reading it. If you guys keep up with my blogs, then some of you may know that i don't write about myself or my life story all the time. My blogs usually tells about my thoughts and opinion.So, this is a bit different.Somewhere down the road, you may realize you are just like me.
The type of person I am. My brother says , i have a great conscious and understanding of life. But, somewhere down the road i don't use my own advice which leads to many downfall. I can give the best advices to someone that could change their life and would do anything to make someone feel better. If you love me a little, i will give you my heart not piece of it BUT all of it. I am emotional to the limit. He says, "if you are gonna b living in this society, you cant expect everyone to be nice to you and love you like we do". I have found this statement to be so true , YET i am in denial. I feel if i am keeping a clean heart and love everyone then why cant they? but ppl are different right? So you see what i mean, I DO understand it all but i am too weak to accept it. makes sense?
My momma on the other hand says, I know very little about the world and the kind of people living in it. I just met good people in my life so i feel life is all nice and dandy. But, when reality slaps you across the face, you will be too weak to face it. So, always be prepared for any situations and keep a strong mind and heart. Don't think with your heart all the time. She says i think about the momentary happiness which can lead to many wrong decisions that i make in life.
AND me, i am happy and i been happy with the way i am and the way i am living my life so far. Yes, there are hardship in life, i may come across good and bad people. But, may be i will learn to face it. I always learn things the hard way because i am stubborn. I hope i start thinking before stepping in to something. THINK twice before making a decision. Stop being confused about anything and everything in life. But, while i am typing it i am thinking, i don't want to change the way i am. I want people to accept me the way i am and love me and be nice to me. I will do the same in return.I don't want nothing else, I really didn't ask for much did i?Why cant life be that simple? Are you like this too? Like you have all the understandings of life YET don't apply your own advice in many situations. I think i am just not wise when it comes to MY life and decisions.
Hope i didn't confuse anyone. This is just a jibbar-jabber i couldn't write on my personal diary. My advice to everyone : Think wisely before making decisions and Look twice before stepping in to the crossroads of life. Don't expect everyone to be nice and loving. Do your best but don't have expectations. (here u go, wish i took my own advice).
Bonus: a lesson I WISH i learned.
Always give yourself the highest level, show your importance to your loved ones before they take you for granted. Show your worth. Throw your decisions, if you don't like something , SAY IT. Don't sacrifice and be so nice that people take advantage of you. Sometimes people don't appreciate and wont look beyond your niceness. That's why its important to love yourself first. Once again i wish i was like that. I am just the opposite of that. If i love you, i will think about your happiness and do anything to keep you happy even if it means by sacrificing my desire and need. This doesn't always lead to happy ending. Life is more than that. Give yourself a pat in the back for all the good work you do and give people the love you are capable of giving including keeping your happiness in mind. sighs**
The type of person I am. My brother says , i have a great conscious and understanding of life. But, somewhere down the road i don't use my own advice which leads to many downfall. I can give the best advices to someone that could change their life and would do anything to make someone feel better. If you love me a little, i will give you my heart not piece of it BUT all of it. I am emotional to the limit. He says, "if you are gonna b living in this society, you cant expect everyone to be nice to you and love you like we do". I have found this statement to be so true , YET i am in denial. I feel if i am keeping a clean heart and love everyone then why cant they? but ppl are different right? So you see what i mean, I DO understand it all but i am too weak to accept it. makes sense?
My momma on the other hand says, I know very little about the world and the kind of people living in it. I just met good people in my life so i feel life is all nice and dandy. But, when reality slaps you across the face, you will be too weak to face it. So, always be prepared for any situations and keep a strong mind and heart. Don't think with your heart all the time. She says i think about the momentary happiness which can lead to many wrong decisions that i make in life.
AND me, i am happy and i been happy with the way i am and the way i am living my life so far. Yes, there are hardship in life, i may come across good and bad people. But, may be i will learn to face it. I always learn things the hard way because i am stubborn. I hope i start thinking before stepping in to something. THINK twice before making a decision. Stop being confused about anything and everything in life. But, while i am typing it i am thinking, i don't want to change the way i am. I want people to accept me the way i am and love me and be nice to me. I will do the same in return.I don't want nothing else, I really didn't ask for much did i?Why cant life be that simple? Are you like this too? Like you have all the understandings of life YET don't apply your own advice in many situations. I think i am just not wise when it comes to MY life and decisions.
Hope i didn't confuse anyone. This is just a jibbar-jabber i couldn't write on my personal diary. My advice to everyone : Think wisely before making decisions and Look twice before stepping in to the crossroads of life. Don't expect everyone to be nice and loving. Do your best but don't have expectations. (here u go, wish i took my own advice).
Bonus: a lesson I WISH i learned.
Always give yourself the highest level, show your importance to your loved ones before they take you for granted. Show your worth. Throw your decisions, if you don't like something , SAY IT. Don't sacrifice and be so nice that people take advantage of you. Sometimes people don't appreciate and wont look beyond your niceness. That's why its important to love yourself first. Once again i wish i was like that. I am just the opposite of that. If i love you, i will think about your happiness and do anything to keep you happy even if it means by sacrificing my desire and need. This doesn't always lead to happy ending. Life is more than that. Give yourself a pat in the back for all the good work you do and give people the love you are capable of giving including keeping your happiness in mind. sighs**
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