Not all types of rumors and gossip are alike, and some can be more hurtful and damaging than others.
Let’s say you’ve just heard a REALLY juicy rumor about someone you know. It may not be true, but it’s too good to keep to yourself. Your first instinct is to hop online and IM it to all your friends.
We’ve all had that kind of urge. But why?
For Attention? For control or power?To feel superior? To feel as part of the group?out of jealousy or revenge? or boredom? why?!!!
Did anyone ever think that spreading rumours and gossiping about other people will only bring damages in their life and would only take away the goodness off their character?
I don't think so...
Girls gossip so much its part of their daily life. I dont got someone i can call as best friend. I love my family, i dont get too involve wit the society. I try my best to stay away from gossiping and talking ill about others. Its a major sin people , we only harm ourselves by doing so. Think of the life after death , stop your mouth from talking rumours because the loss is yours. Think about it deep!
Teenage girls\boys- gossip about the popular girls\boys in school. Rumours such as someone is dating someone else. Gossiping about another girl's shoes or dressing sense. Bring out her flaws and gossip about it. Whats the point? Did it benefit you in anyway? It only shows you are weak and somewhere down the road you are not happy with yourself which is making you talk about others. smh*
So called friends- some girls back bite the ones they hang out with. Why hang out in the first place? cuz you are simply bored with your life? Need to spice it up? find something better seriously!
Married women\men- gossip about their inlaws . Always got something to say against the other party. Did you think it over that talkin about your inlaws basically means you are talkin shit about your own family. After all your inlaws are the people you spend the rest of your life with , someone you live under the same roof with. Don't forget you left your parents already , you only got one option to accept your in laws and feel love and recieve love. Don't keep yourself away from that by just gossiping which will only make your married life miserable.
Facebook- Or should i say the drama blog for some people? Status messages and wall posts can really backfire on you. Watch what you write to your friends and what you share with the facebook world. Remember you might be giving the gossip queens just another chance to talk about you or someone else.
I will just come to the main point, do not gossip people. Its a major sin and the reason our prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said more women will go to hell because of their gossiping habits. Do you want to ruin your life for the hereafter with your own hands? Becdause of these lowly deeds , one brings harm to themselves. People might not trust you when you gossip, they might not respect you , they will stop communicating with you. Did you think about that before gossiping? You only ruin your character by doing so and only bringing more sins in to your account.
Why do it? its wrong, it may ruin somebody's life. Few wrong words out of your mouth against somebody might make their life miserable. Do you want to be responsible for such thing? Remember, words hurt as much as a punch. Did you know when you spread rumours and the other party believes your rumours, it may lead 'em to make wrong choices in life? So, why do it? no benefits on your side right?
So, here's the end of this blog with the saying of today:
When Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, said (interpretation of the meaning): “neither backbite one another” – as gossip is a transgression against people’s honour – He then said: “Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful” [al-Hujuraat 49:12].
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
The way I am
I don't know why i am writing this may be because i left my journal back in US. Ever since that incident, stopped keeping journals and started writing on my blog.I hope no one finds it , i have written so much that i wouldn't want people to find out about. I am writing this because of few things my mom and my bro say to me all the time. I hope he is reading it. If you guys keep up with my blogs, then some of you may know that i don't write about myself or my life story all the time. My blogs usually tells about my thoughts and opinion.So, this is a bit different.Somewhere down the road, you may realize you are just like me.
The type of person I am. My brother says , i have a great conscious and understanding of life. But, somewhere down the road i don't use my own advice which leads to many downfall. I can give the best advices to someone that could change their life and would do anything to make someone feel better. If you love me a little, i will give you my heart not piece of it BUT all of it. I am emotional to the limit. He says, "if you are gonna b living in this society, you cant expect everyone to be nice to you and love you like we do". I have found this statement to be so true , YET i am in denial. I feel if i am keeping a clean heart and love everyone then why cant they? but ppl are different right? So you see what i mean, I DO understand it all but i am too weak to accept it. makes sense?
My momma on the other hand says, I know very little about the world and the kind of people living in it. I just met good people in my life so i feel life is all nice and dandy. But, when reality slaps you across the face, you will be too weak to face it. So, always be prepared for any situations and keep a strong mind and heart. Don't think with your heart all the time. She says i think about the momentary happiness which can lead to many wrong decisions that i make in life.
AND me, i am happy and i been happy with the way i am and the way i am living my life so far. Yes, there are hardship in life, i may come across good and bad people. But, may be i will learn to face it. I always learn things the hard way because i am stubborn. I hope i start thinking before stepping in to something. THINK twice before making a decision. Stop being confused about anything and everything in life. But, while i am typing it i am thinking, i don't want to change the way i am. I want people to accept me the way i am and love me and be nice to me. I will do the same in return.I don't want nothing else, I really didn't ask for much did i?Why cant life be that simple? Are you like this too? Like you have all the understandings of life YET don't apply your own advice in many situations. I think i am just not wise when it comes to MY life and decisions.
Hope i didn't confuse anyone. This is just a jibbar-jabber i couldn't write on my personal diary. My advice to everyone : Think wisely before making decisions and Look twice before stepping in to the crossroads of life. Don't expect everyone to be nice and loving. Do your best but don't have expectations. (here u go, wish i took my own advice).
Bonus: a lesson I WISH i learned.
Always give yourself the highest level, show your importance to your loved ones before they take you for granted. Show your worth. Throw your decisions, if you don't like something , SAY IT. Don't sacrifice and be so nice that people take advantage of you. Sometimes people don't appreciate and wont look beyond your niceness. That's why its important to love yourself first. Once again i wish i was like that. I am just the opposite of that. If i love you, i will think about your happiness and do anything to keep you happy even if it means by sacrificing my desire and need. This doesn't always lead to happy ending. Life is more than that. Give yourself a pat in the back for all the good work you do and give people the love you are capable of giving including keeping your happiness in mind. sighs**
The type of person I am. My brother says , i have a great conscious and understanding of life. But, somewhere down the road i don't use my own advice which leads to many downfall. I can give the best advices to someone that could change their life and would do anything to make someone feel better. If you love me a little, i will give you my heart not piece of it BUT all of it. I am emotional to the limit. He says, "if you are gonna b living in this society, you cant expect everyone to be nice to you and love you like we do". I have found this statement to be so true , YET i am in denial. I feel if i am keeping a clean heart and love everyone then why cant they? but ppl are different right? So you see what i mean, I DO understand it all but i am too weak to accept it. makes sense?
My momma on the other hand says, I know very little about the world and the kind of people living in it. I just met good people in my life so i feel life is all nice and dandy. But, when reality slaps you across the face, you will be too weak to face it. So, always be prepared for any situations and keep a strong mind and heart. Don't think with your heart all the time. She says i think about the momentary happiness which can lead to many wrong decisions that i make in life.
AND me, i am happy and i been happy with the way i am and the way i am living my life so far. Yes, there are hardship in life, i may come across good and bad people. But, may be i will learn to face it. I always learn things the hard way because i am stubborn. I hope i start thinking before stepping in to something. THINK twice before making a decision. Stop being confused about anything and everything in life. But, while i am typing it i am thinking, i don't want to change the way i am. I want people to accept me the way i am and love me and be nice to me. I will do the same in return.I don't want nothing else, I really didn't ask for much did i?Why cant life be that simple? Are you like this too? Like you have all the understandings of life YET don't apply your own advice in many situations. I think i am just not wise when it comes to MY life and decisions.
Hope i didn't confuse anyone. This is just a jibbar-jabber i couldn't write on my personal diary. My advice to everyone : Think wisely before making decisions and Look twice before stepping in to the crossroads of life. Don't expect everyone to be nice and loving. Do your best but don't have expectations. (here u go, wish i took my own advice).
Bonus: a lesson I WISH i learned.
Always give yourself the highest level, show your importance to your loved ones before they take you for granted. Show your worth. Throw your decisions, if you don't like something , SAY IT. Don't sacrifice and be so nice that people take advantage of you. Sometimes people don't appreciate and wont look beyond your niceness. That's why its important to love yourself first. Once again i wish i was like that. I am just the opposite of that. If i love you, i will think about your happiness and do anything to keep you happy even if it means by sacrificing my desire and need. This doesn't always lead to happy ending. Life is more than that. Give yourself a pat in the back for all the good work you do and give people the love you are capable of giving including keeping your happiness in mind. sighs**
Monday, July 04, 2011
My true inspiration
For those of you who do not know who Dr. Zakir Abdul Karim Naik is by now he is a public speaker on the subject of Islam and comparative religion. He is the founder and president of the islamic Research Foundation. Before becoming a public speaker, he trained as a doctor. Naik says that his goal is to "concentrate on the educated Muslim youth who have become apologetic about their own religion and have started to feel the religion is outdated."He considers it a duty of every Muslim to remove perceived misconceptions about Islam.
How i wish one of my family members were like Zakir Naik or wish they would try to follow his pathways. If there was someone like him in my family, i would learn so much and would be motivated everday. InshAllah everyone sees the real light in the tunnel i.e ISLAM. I admire Dr. Zakir Naik the most in this world. I appreciate his messages and greatful that there are still people like that who not only teach others about the righteous ways but follows it himself. Surely, you cant be a true believer unless you follow it yourself first.
Naik is my motivation to be a better Muslim and I realized how important education is all due to him. Without education (in any field) we would remain ignorant and not understand Islam properly. We would focus on what we hear from others. We wouldnt try to use our own logic or knowledge and that would only lead to hypocrisy and ignorance. If you noticed, how some bengali parents\elders\youngsters are very hypocrite. For example, they would pray five times a day and would back bite others and think it is okay to treat people differently. They are unware of the fact that 'backbiting" is a sin as well. It is all because they do not try to get Islam , they only know what they were taught and would not try to find out or learn more. It is important to learn about Islam while you are alive in this duniyaa. We wont have a second chance after death. You can never learn enough , if we really try to get the Quran, life would be different and we would be a changed person from what we were before.
Dr. Zakir Naik not only tries to be a better Muslim everyday but he proves it through his actions. He tries to follow the true Islamic ways, he learns about it and speaks with the right sources. He even shows the right path to his children and as a Muslim this is the right way life should be led. Sometimes i wished i did major in Islam and was admitted in Islamic school. InshAllah, when i have kids , it is my wish to send them to Islamic school of teachings. hehe..ps: gotta get married first.
So, i hope you all listen to his lectures because they are real enjoyable. I actually get excited to listen to his lectures on Peacetv or youtube. He is a great man and a true inspiration for Muslims. I admire him like no other. May Allah bless him and his family. So, heres the end of this blog with the thoughts of today.
I from the bottom of my heart truly hope people who are ignorant and hypocrites try to learn more about Islam including me. I hope we treat people as we want to be treated. We remove jealousy and hatred cause those things lead to back biting. I hope we fight the shaitaan within ourselves first before judging others. May Allah keep us aloof from temptations, lies and decieving. Ameen!
How i wish one of my family members were like Zakir Naik or wish they would try to follow his pathways. If there was someone like him in my family, i would learn so much and would be motivated everday. InshAllah everyone sees the real light in the tunnel i.e ISLAM. I admire Dr. Zakir Naik the most in this world. I appreciate his messages and greatful that there are still people like that who not only teach others about the righteous ways but follows it himself. Surely, you cant be a true believer unless you follow it yourself first.
Naik is my motivation to be a better Muslim and I realized how important education is all due to him. Without education (in any field) we would remain ignorant and not understand Islam properly. We would focus on what we hear from others. We wouldnt try to use our own logic or knowledge and that would only lead to hypocrisy and ignorance. If you noticed, how some bengali parents\elders\youngsters are very hypocrite. For example, they would pray five times a day and would back bite others and think it is okay to treat people differently. They are unware of the fact that 'backbiting" is a sin as well. It is all because they do not try to get Islam , they only know what they were taught and would not try to find out or learn more. It is important to learn about Islam while you are alive in this duniyaa. We wont have a second chance after death. You can never learn enough , if we really try to get the Quran, life would be different and we would be a changed person from what we were before.
Dr. Zakir Naik not only tries to be a better Muslim everyday but he proves it through his actions. He tries to follow the true Islamic ways, he learns about it and speaks with the right sources. He even shows the right path to his children and as a Muslim this is the right way life should be led. Sometimes i wished i did major in Islam and was admitted in Islamic school. InshAllah, when i have kids , it is my wish to send them to Islamic school of teachings. hehe..ps: gotta get married first.
So, i hope you all listen to his lectures because they are real enjoyable. I actually get excited to listen to his lectures on Peacetv or youtube. He is a great man and a true inspiration for Muslims. I admire him like no other. May Allah bless him and his family. So, heres the end of this blog with the thoughts of today.
I from the bottom of my heart truly hope people who are ignorant and hypocrites try to learn more about Islam including me. I hope we treat people as we want to be treated. We remove jealousy and hatred cause those things lead to back biting. I hope we fight the shaitaan within ourselves first before judging others. May Allah keep us aloof from temptations, lies and decieving. Ameen!
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