Steps to becoming a better Muslim

So, this is going to be a lot of material to absorb in one read. So , you might have to read again.

In life comes many circumstances where you feel that you are helpless and insecure. Throughout, all the obstacles and circumstances, I never lost hope in Allah. I always prayed, hoped for the best and stayed positive and trust me, it did wonders in my life. However, i feel i am not accomplishing my goal in this life time. We were sent to this world for a purpose , a purpose to serve Allah. We are abusing our free will and many of us are creating evil. Evil is created only by mankind and we should always be reminded to be a better Muslim and fight shaitaan every moment of the day.

So, here i am , a recently changed person or still making the effort to change from how i was before or years ago. I don't know how it came to me but i hope and InshAllah every Muslim will try to lead this path that i am trying to follow.
My steps to becoming a better Muslim was first to be covered up. I got long sleeve dresses made, bought hijab. I am still making sure i doll up at parties but only when i am covered up like a Muslim woman should be. lol! Every time there's a talk of someone else, if its ill talk or something that would ruin his\ her reputation, i make sure i stop myself from talking about that person. It is one of the biggest sins to back bite and talk behind someone's back. If i really want to share information or give an example, i just tell the other person about a particular situation and make sure not to mention any names. If one hears anything bad about a person, as a Muslim they should hide their flaws and not bring it out to the world to defame them in anyway.

Other things i attempted to do and try everyday is to keep a clean heart and mind. I try to not dislike anyone or think bad of them. It is just not worth it people, doesn't benefit you in anyway. I try to keep a clean intention. My previous blog about prayers was all about the mind and heart finding peace and consolation through the source of praying and not by going to a psychologist or doing yoga. You could take a look at that for a better understanding. I also make sure when anything pisses me off, i always find ways to pacify my heart in a positive way. I try not to let anger mess with me because anger is a path of destruction. I keep my faith strong at all times. I always read Islamic articles and blogs online to always keep me motivated towards my goal. I want to be reminded everyday to be a better Muslim otherwise, i fear i will go astray. This world might just eat me up and throw me to the devils. Every time there is a evilness wandering in my mind, i think of hell right away. I always talk about Islam or write about my thoughts, so my Imaan becomes stronger and stronger by the day.

This is a future reminder to myself:
Marry someone who is religious , not only does he pray and stays on the right path but his family as well. I believe if you truly follow the path of Islam and not hypocrisy, it is impossible for you to stay aloof from the source of happiness. Islam is the true key to happiness if one tries to follow it from heart. I don't need lots of money to keep me happy. I believe if you are filthy rich, something wrong went down in your ways of earning money. Cant be super rich by staying on the halal path. (Talking about BD situations). If i like someone, I am going to try to make sure i stay on the path to satisfy Allah through my actions and not do anything haram.The hadeeth of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wasallam, which said, "If a man whose Deen is acceptable to you comes for marriage, then marry him (your daughter or sister)," seems to have little relevance as to how we decide about what makes an ideal Muslim husband. I can always pray right? Tahajjud prayer after midnight is very helpful to feel closer to Allah.

I want to be always around people who will always set restrictions from doing anything haraam. I don't want to build in the guts to go astray. I want to not only remind myself but be around those people who will remind me and follow same ways as me. I can only get that if i marry in to a super religious family. Love comes after. I want to build my future and marriage based on all that. I cant be with a family that is too involved with the society and the snobby, show off world of today. Because that will only take me away from Allah's path. You all may not agree with me and think , no matter where you are what kinds of people you are around, you can always be on the right path if you are strong enough. However, i like to do things the way i feel satisfied. Shaitaan easily takes me to the bad path, so i must be around good people and this is my reason for mentioning about marring in to a religious family.

I pray everyday to be on the right track, to keep my eyes away from seeing anything bad, bad mouthing someone, feel pride, be jealous, hatred or anger. If i could forever follow this , I will truly find peace at heart. This is my practice and inshAllah i keep practicing it in the near future and never give up on my goals . So , pray for me everyone. I hope somewhere down the road, my words stick to your mind as a reminder to be a better Muslim. I hope it makes a difference in your lives. It is never too late to apologize for mistakes, repent for sins and cover your sins by doing something pious. Allah is great and kind, he will forgive us if we repent from heart and stay away from sins. So, inshAllah i come back to this and read it over and over everytime shaitan tries to engulf my mind with devilish thoughts.

So, here's the end of this blog with the thoughts of today:
He makes mistakes, but whatever happens, he corrects mistakes by going back to Allaah's rules and being truthful to them. It is that simple.I believe in that.
If you heard the hindi phrase ," kaal kare so aaj kar, aaj kare to abhi" meaning,Do it today what you plan to do tomorrow, and do it right now what you plan to do today; don't let shaitan tell you, you will start praying soon, will cover up soon, be a good person from next year. (lol i am random). DO IT TODAY people!! Life is limited , your death is unpredictable. Make the difference today. Khuda Hafiz.

HIjab is my choice NOT a compulsion.

So, many people are raising questions asking me about my decision on becoming a hijabi. This is not out of the blue people, i just didn't talk about it. I have been wanting to and intended to be a hijabi since a long time now. Today is the day, and i thank Allah for giving me the courage finally. I know people will judge me, call me a hypocrite or poke fun at me. I dont want to argue but i will try my best to put sense in them. Better late then never right? With that thought i want to share few ideas with you all. I want to share my story and opinion.

A very important person in my life lectured me on Islam and about hijab. Obviously, he told me things i already knew but only difference was i never applied those in my life before. He said something very touchy, " A Muslim woman should be recognized by her attire and behavior". After a talking session with him, i changed my mind completely. I just decided to be covered up and put on a hijab.I decided to remove my guy friends and all my pictures from facebook. It may sound unfair to some of you. But i had to do things the way i felt comfortable and satisfied. InshAllah, i dont change and stay that way. So, pray for me everyone. :)

Opinion: Many people (especially the girls who don't wear hijab) regularly say similar to: "i know a lot of girls wear it because of their parents so just because theirs a veil does not mean shes religious but its a good indicator."I say, at least she is humble enough to obey her parents in that case. And being humble is a good sign for a girl being a potential good wife. Also it shows her parents care enough about Islam to guide her daughter to wear it . In other words, she is doing something pious - whatever excuse is given for or against so , do not judge her.
Another thing is when you pray to Allah , whether you do your five salaah, or be a hijabi. Try, to practice it all from heart because you fear Allah and to please Allah and not the world. This duniya is for few days the real life begins after death. So, why not take advantage of the chances we are given in this lifetime to follow life according to the Holy book of Quran. I regret not being fully covered up all these years, regret it all. You can always ask for forgiveness but remember when you ask for forgiveness , you have to make promises to Allah to never go down that lane of haram activities again. And inshAllah, Allah (saw) will accept our prayers.
When i started to wear hijab, the feeling in my heart was sensational. I felt complete.I felt beautiful. I wear my hijab because i want to keep Allah happy. I want to try to accomplish my purposes of this life by following the right path of Islam. I wear it to be protected from the evil eyes. I wear it so everyday i am reminded to be a better muslim. These reasons are strong enough to build up and strengthen your Imaan and strong enough if your heart wants to agree with everything i said.

InshAllah, those who don't wear hijab will start someday. Those who wear it will never take it off including me. Those who judge others will stop judging or point any fingers. Everyone is in a battle with themselves no one asked your opinion to judge them. So DON'T! Let them live their life according to their wishes and you live yours. You can always tell your Muslim brother or sister to be on the right path. Never force anyone just tell 'em the ways. It is up to them whether to apply it to their life or not.

BONUS: Hijab is beautiful if you can put it on nicely and present yourself confidently. Be comfortable and do not care about what ppl say. Do it for the right purpose not to please somebody or to show off or even worse, feel proud about it. Swallow your pride it doesn't benefit you in anyway. Khuda Hafiz.

Dreams and wishes.

I know people have so many wishes and dreams. They wish to visit many places someday, dream of becoming a doctor or an engineer one day. Dream of becoming rich or marry rich? haha.. In my case, sometimes i wish i would dream too or keep such wishes. If i had wishes or dreams i probably would have motivation towards something in my life. But i don't dream big nor do i have any wishes that i want to fulfill someday.

If i wish to be anything then it is to be a better Muslim and always be on the right path or at least keep practicing. I believe , this life is too short to run after what we shouldn't be running after. By that i mean, any haram activities. We should live to please Allah and keep people happy around us. Kill jealousy and hatred from within, kill the evil that is taking us to the wrong direction and just pray and be a good person. Then not only you will feel good about your existence but you will be showered with love everywhere you go.

You must be thinking how does all this connect to my point about dreams and wishes. It does connect because I am talking about how i lead my life or wish to or try to. I don't dream about becoming this or doing this or that someday but dream about being a better person. Thus, i try everyday.

I just wish to live a simple life. While, i am with my parents , i want to take care of them and keep them happy. Never give them a reason to complain and never break my brother's trust. If i get married someday, i wanna make sure i will keep my in laws happy and keep my husband happy. I want to repent any mistakes from the past. I want to only better myself from onward. This is just a beginning. I hope someday i truly become a better Muslim and inshAllah i will. Where there's a will there is a way. :) I hope i come back to this blog often just for a reminder about my real wishes and dream.

I don't want to run after the worldly pleasure , i don't need diamondz , rubyz and pearls. Sure they are beautiful. But, i want to stay within my limits and expect less from life or anyone around me. I don't want to dream about a big house and a nice car outside my garage but i want nice people around me with big hearts that would shower me with love. And this is my dream to love and be loved in return and i could get that only by my right doings not if i am too busy running after my dream like a selfish person. The real life begins after our time is over here. We are standing in the middle of hell and heaven and its our choice to decide where to go from our free will. So, think about this. Life here is short the real deal is the hereafter. Hope this makes better sense to you all.

So, here's the end of this blog with the thoughts of today:
Don't run after the dreams but get busy chasing the reality. Don't think of another person's luxury but smile about what you have. What you are given may be enough for the whole lifetime. Be who you are , love what you have, stick to your motivation and live a righteous life.