Would you rather be with a person you love or who you have a bright future with?
People may often come across a situation where they feel they should be with whom they love. Or, it could be that they should be with who they have a bright future with such as him being educated bringing her the future she desired to have. Now, the question is about happiness. Would you rather be with who you building your future with or be with who you love and care about?
This is a general situation for any girl who fell in love but somewhere along the path she is not quiet happy with her love \married life. Is it because she is not getting the financial support she wanted to have or is it because the life partner she chose is not keeping her well and happy. Some girls like to think materialistic, they would first think of their present and future and basing on that they will decide what kind of person to marry. A guy who comes from a rich background will fulfill all her need. He could be the type to give her diamond ring from her favorite diamond store. He could easily get her an expensive car and take her on a vacation of her choice. Isn’t it what all girls dream of to live life in luxury? But, what If she is not happy with it? What if he is only keeping her happy with the worldly things and not understanding her other needs?
People often make the mistake of choosing a life partner who they think is better for them because he is rich. He may be the richest and give you all kind of financial support you would like. But what if he is not your dream man like the kind you dreamed of when you were young. The dream to be with that prince charming who takes care of your little need in life to share all kind of problems with you. People are not perfect and men definitely aren’t. Everyone makes mistake but there should be love to have the kind of relationship that is created by two heart and not the mind.
There are pretty couples living a luxurious life but you may find the husband cheating on his wife or the wife cheating on her husband. They make love but it is because they are bounded to do so but there is no real connection. What is love? Is it jus lust combined with feelings of your need? Is it that you get used to the person you are living with and he becomes a part of your everyday life. Or is love something you feel for a person where you feel his pain is yours, he makes sacrifices for you or someone you can not live without. Love could be all different kind of meaning depending on how a person defines it with his action.
If there is no love then the relationship is not complete because the materialistic things in life are temporary. But a person that you love and expect the same kind of love in return is the person who you can call to be your true soul mate. We all may stick with all the earthly power and luxury but at the end of the day every girl desires to have the kind of soul mate who can keep them happy mentally and physically. What if the rich guy isn’t someone you love but he is just keeping you happy with his riches? Would you choose someone who gives you all comfort ability of financial need? Or would you choose someone you love who isn’t wealthy but gives you the love you once desired for when you were young or a teenager?
Love is very important in life. A poor person can take care of you very well and protect you from all evil if he loves you. He could give you anything it could be from a small gift to something little he does for you to appreciate him. That could be just more than enough and his salary and finance should not matter. Sometimes you just need the little things in life to keep you happy all along. He may not be perfect but if you learn to love him you will learn to stick with him until the end. Sometimes you just need that one person to not always take you out shopping. He could just sit there and talk to you for hours like your best friend would do. He could bring you flowers and candy and it could be seen as big as a diamond ring. Only depending on the person and how she looks at it as. The joy you get by little things in life matter more than the materialistic world.
However, there could be confusion in this topic as well. What if the rich guy you marry loves you ? I mean, life could really be that perfect. What if you learn to live with him and materialistic as if you are the kind to make compromise all your life. Is it just love you need or you need money to secure your future or the generation you will create after you. This could be looked at in many different ways. A girl may marry a person because she needs to secure her future for her kids upbringing and because she always dreamed of an luxurious life that the love really do not matter much. May be thinking materialistic is the way. However, everyone needs a prince charming and money don’t always bring you all kind of happiness. Sometimes you need a person who doesn’t make you happy with his wealth but a person who can understand you, share his feelings with, someone you can call the love of your life. Keeping all sort of questions and reasonable answers in mind in the end it all depends on a person how she may want to go on with her life with her life partner. Its her choice whether to call her man her soul mate whom she loves dearly. Or, she may chose to call him her husband who she is tied in a knot just with the bond of marriage.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Prayers
A person may find himself constantly fighting with his\her misery and finding no way out to get out of it. Some take support of exercises or yoga to find peace within their heart. Others may think of making an appointment to consult with a psychologist. Some may go and express their feelings to their loved ones to feel better or get the burden of their chest. To me exercises, yoga, gym, psychologist all mean nothing to me when it comes to consoling my heart. I believe you can find peace easily if your mind agrees to take the positives out of a situation. You can be your own yogi, or psychologist if you want to.
We often go to the yoga classes and feel this is a way to get rid of any kind of restless or anxiety feelings. However, if one isn't paying attention or does not want the yoga to be effective then it will not effect them. You can easily go do yoga but at the end of the day it is all up to you how to make your yoga session effective. We often do one thing because it is said to be the thing to do. But, we forget that nothing is effective unless your mind and heart agrees to it. Now, i am not saying that one shouldn't do yoga, exercises, and have sessions with a psychologist. Those things could be very effective depending on an individual. I am definitely for it, but i find consolation through a different source.
Everyone goes through the phase of being reserved to hyper then to a calmer stage and finally to a little mature stage. Everyone has immaturity in them and we learn different things everyday which increases our maturity level. Now, I haven't lived or living a princess life though my parents try their best to give me what i need. Yet, i find myself in situations which causes me to feel anxiety or depressed. I do not blame anyone else but myself nor do i want to regret it. Because everything happens for a good reason and we learn from situations whether it is good or bad.
So, when i feel alone, helpless, hopeless, negativity, anxiety, depression or any sort of misery, i do not seek support of anything but prayers to our almighty Allah. I am talking from my own experience that i have acknowledged throughout the past years. A year or two ago, i was very anxious and feeling sad every now and then over a personal situation. I was not that wise to know what to do in a situation of sadness to make myself feel better. I joined yoga with two of my friends and i realized early morning yoga and all these breathing exercises did not really make a difference to my situation. Whether i had full concentration on my yoga sessions or no matter how much effort i put in my exercises. It did not do any help and my mind was getting filled with negativity and helplessness.
After yoga was over i decided to work out a bit. I came to the realization that those do no help because i don't let them to be effective to my mental or physical health. My mind was constantly getting distracted over other matters of life. Finally, i decided to turn to Allah with my situation and realized if Allah wants i can get out of a bad situation and if i believe and have faith in Allah i will overcome any situations. I did a lot of prayers with some extra ones along with reading the Holy Quran.Later, i started feeling better and very positive. Prayers have such great power and strength, it could make anyone feel peaceful if one prays faithfully.
Therefore, if one wants yoga exercises and a psychologist to effect their mental health, then it is definitely a positive idea for them. In my case, none of these worked for me because i didn't let them. But i let prayers effect me because I had full faith in my prayers and on Allah. Since, then i try my best not to miss my prayers. Though, in the past i didn't miss, but sometimes one may go astray. It is in human nature. So, if you want your anxiety and helplessness to be cured, go for what effects you and what u let to be effective. It could be yoga for you or it could be prayers. No situation is helpless and everything is not full of negativity, one just got to open their eyes to the brighter side of everything and think positive as it may overcome the negativity. So, when you feel down again think twice before you let misery take over you. The life you have been gifted with is so precious and be thankful for it everyday. The life you live is all due to Allah and the situations you are in could be so minor compare to others who are going through worse and wishing they could be in your shoe.
So here's the ending of this blog with the thoughts of today:
Allah knows what best for us. So, why should we complain? We always want a sunshine, but Allah knows there must be rain we always want a laughter and a moment of cheer, but our heart will lose it's tenderness if we never shed a tear
Thank Allah everyday!
We often go to the yoga classes and feel this is a way to get rid of any kind of restless or anxiety feelings. However, if one isn't paying attention or does not want the yoga to be effective then it will not effect them. You can easily go do yoga but at the end of the day it is all up to you how to make your yoga session effective. We often do one thing because it is said to be the thing to do. But, we forget that nothing is effective unless your mind and heart agrees to it. Now, i am not saying that one shouldn't do yoga, exercises, and have sessions with a psychologist. Those things could be very effective depending on an individual. I am definitely for it, but i find consolation through a different source.
Everyone goes through the phase of being reserved to hyper then to a calmer stage and finally to a little mature stage. Everyone has immaturity in them and we learn different things everyday which increases our maturity level. Now, I haven't lived or living a princess life though my parents try their best to give me what i need. Yet, i find myself in situations which causes me to feel anxiety or depressed. I do not blame anyone else but myself nor do i want to regret it. Because everything happens for a good reason and we learn from situations whether it is good or bad.
So, when i feel alone, helpless, hopeless, negativity, anxiety, depression or any sort of misery, i do not seek support of anything but prayers to our almighty Allah. I am talking from my own experience that i have acknowledged throughout the past years. A year or two ago, i was very anxious and feeling sad every now and then over a personal situation. I was not that wise to know what to do in a situation of sadness to make myself feel better. I joined yoga with two of my friends and i realized early morning yoga and all these breathing exercises did not really make a difference to my situation. Whether i had full concentration on my yoga sessions or no matter how much effort i put in my exercises. It did not do any help and my mind was getting filled with negativity and helplessness.
After yoga was over i decided to work out a bit. I came to the realization that those do no help because i don't let them to be effective to my mental or physical health. My mind was constantly getting distracted over other matters of life. Finally, i decided to turn to Allah with my situation and realized if Allah wants i can get out of a bad situation and if i believe and have faith in Allah i will overcome any situations. I did a lot of prayers with some extra ones along with reading the Holy Quran.Later, i started feeling better and very positive. Prayers have such great power and strength, it could make anyone feel peaceful if one prays faithfully.
Therefore, if one wants yoga exercises and a psychologist to effect their mental health, then it is definitely a positive idea for them. In my case, none of these worked for me because i didn't let them. But i let prayers effect me because I had full faith in my prayers and on Allah. Since, then i try my best not to miss my prayers. Though, in the past i didn't miss, but sometimes one may go astray. It is in human nature. So, if you want your anxiety and helplessness to be cured, go for what effects you and what u let to be effective. It could be yoga for you or it could be prayers. No situation is helpless and everything is not full of negativity, one just got to open their eyes to the brighter side of everything and think positive as it may overcome the negativity. So, when you feel down again think twice before you let misery take over you. The life you have been gifted with is so precious and be thankful for it everyday. The life you live is all due to Allah and the situations you are in could be so minor compare to others who are going through worse and wishing they could be in your shoe.
So here's the ending of this blog with the thoughts of today:
Allah knows what best for us. So, why should we complain? We always want a sunshine, but Allah knows there must be rain we always want a laughter and a moment of cheer, but our heart will lose it's tenderness if we never shed a tear
Thank Allah everyday!
Friday, January 28, 2011
Looks vs. Personality
A Dilemma or Confusion?
When it comes to look vs. personality people come across asking themselves whether they should first go for looks in their mate or his personality. What do you choose?
We often come across people who debate between a person’s look being important than his personality. Have we ever given it a thought, a human being’s personality can cause a big difference in the relationship he carries with his\ her spouse? Or have we ever come to the realization that a person’s good looks may fade while aging or many other reasons. However, personalities are forever given to define a person’s good and bad sides in order for one to like\love him.
While reading a teenage blog and a face book status debate about look and personality. I came across to find myself left at a confused state. Do look matter more than his\her personality? Or that he could look like anything but personality should matter more because you are loving him\her as a person and not for his\her looks. This topic can only get interesting if anything! There could be so many arguments regarding the issue as well as rebuttal argument.
Fact- A whole lot of people would want good looks in their mate. They definitely do not want to wake up from sleep and find themselves saying, why did I get married? However, some people want to only go for looks whether, it is because of their personal reasons or because they like to show off to their buddies about their good looking mate. It could be other reasons such as, they feel comfortable being around a good looking person. Much like in the movies where everything is perfect and you would never find a partner being with another partner who is not much of a big deal in the beauty field.
Interesting fact- I have come across an argument on face book where some people agreed on the statement that good looks are only momentary and personality comes before anything. A person’s look may fade away with aging or for many health issues. He\ She may gain or loose weight. They may turn darker then they were before, there could be a change in their look while they growing up each day, etc. Thus, this argument can go on following these interesting statement one may come up with.
Rules- Looks may matter more to some people as their boyfriend\girlfriend may want to see a change in their look or may loose interest in them because of how much they are not satisfied with how their mate look. They might get attracted to other good looking boys\girls at the end of the day. They might cheat or start meeting other people. Your mate might set up few rules for you regarding good looks. For instance, you must dress this or that way. You have to get a make over, or a new hair cut? Your boyfriend\girlfriend might have so many issues about your appearances that it may lead to a break up. Of course, none of us want a break up because that would not make us happy at all.
He is not what he shows to be- Some girls or boys as a matter of fact, would think emotionally and say they only care about the personality and how his\her heart is. However, have we ever given it a thought that his personality might be fake and he may not turn out to be how he comes out upfront. He may be a psycho, he may have many flaws he is hiding and etc. We can never look down to his heart and find out what is really there. You may think he is a gem of a person but is he really? Or is she? If we could ever really know all about his personality then there would be less break ups and more happy go lucky love stories. However, people may feign about their relationships and feign about who they really are. Thus, look is really out there you get to know him after you find him attractive and that is what some people may go for before they choose personality.
Dilemma- So. Do we really have a solution or a right answer to this? I am not a philosophical writer nor a tricky one who wants to trick your mind and hurt your brain. I definitely do not keep such intentions. This is a interesting topic which is also very confusing to find the right answer to. A Human being’s personality could be a show off, his\ her looks may fade with time, they might not look as gorgeous. However, have we given it a thought that his personality may not remain the same as well? Now, did I really confuse you? What would you choose if you had to choose one? You would be lucky to get both good looks and good personality. However, if you had to choose one would you really choose look over personality or personality over looks?
When it comes to look vs. personality people come across asking themselves whether they should first go for looks in their mate or his personality. What do you choose?
We often come across people who debate between a person’s look being important than his personality. Have we ever given it a thought, a human being’s personality can cause a big difference in the relationship he carries with his\ her spouse? Or have we ever come to the realization that a person’s good looks may fade while aging or many other reasons. However, personalities are forever given to define a person’s good and bad sides in order for one to like\love him.
While reading a teenage blog and a face book status debate about look and personality. I came across to find myself left at a confused state. Do look matter more than his\her personality? Or that he could look like anything but personality should matter more because you are loving him\her as a person and not for his\her looks. This topic can only get interesting if anything! There could be so many arguments regarding the issue as well as rebuttal argument.
Fact- A whole lot of people would want good looks in their mate. They definitely do not want to wake up from sleep and find themselves saying, why did I get married? However, some people want to only go for looks whether, it is because of their personal reasons or because they like to show off to their buddies about their good looking mate. It could be other reasons such as, they feel comfortable being around a good looking person. Much like in the movies where everything is perfect and you would never find a partner being with another partner who is not much of a big deal in the beauty field.
Interesting fact- I have come across an argument on face book where some people agreed on the statement that good looks are only momentary and personality comes before anything. A person’s look may fade away with aging or for many health issues. He\ She may gain or loose weight. They may turn darker then they were before, there could be a change in their look while they growing up each day, etc. Thus, this argument can go on following these interesting statement one may come up with.
Rules- Looks may matter more to some people as their boyfriend\girlfriend may want to see a change in their look or may loose interest in them because of how much they are not satisfied with how their mate look. They might get attracted to other good looking boys\girls at the end of the day. They might cheat or start meeting other people. Your mate might set up few rules for you regarding good looks. For instance, you must dress this or that way. You have to get a make over, or a new hair cut? Your boyfriend\girlfriend might have so many issues about your appearances that it may lead to a break up. Of course, none of us want a break up because that would not make us happy at all.
He is not what he shows to be- Some girls or boys as a matter of fact, would think emotionally and say they only care about the personality and how his\her heart is. However, have we ever given it a thought that his personality might be fake and he may not turn out to be how he comes out upfront. He may be a psycho, he may have many flaws he is hiding and etc. We can never look down to his heart and find out what is really there. You may think he is a gem of a person but is he really? Or is she? If we could ever really know all about his personality then there would be less break ups and more happy go lucky love stories. However, people may feign about their relationships and feign about who they really are. Thus, look is really out there you get to know him after you find him attractive and that is what some people may go for before they choose personality.
Dilemma- So. Do we really have a solution or a right answer to this? I am not a philosophical writer nor a tricky one who wants to trick your mind and hurt your brain. I definitely do not keep such intentions. This is a interesting topic which is also very confusing to find the right answer to. A Human being’s personality could be a show off, his\ her looks may fade with time, they might not look as gorgeous. However, have we given it a thought that his personality may not remain the same as well? Now, did I really confuse you? What would you choose if you had to choose one? You would be lucky to get both good looks and good personality. However, if you had to choose one would you really choose look over personality or personality over looks?
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Anger
Cure to my anger
Many people go through the phrase of feeling the crazy psychotic anger.People get angry because they strive to right the wrong they are doing. Others get annoyed and cranky easily, in that case, that would be me! However, the question is what is anger? Anger is the unpleasant kind of human emotion, at least, its how I feel. I hate feeling angry!!!URGH!! Now, see what I mean? So, moving on with the thought, I want to share few facts about anger that relates to me and the cure of it. I promise I will make this interesting; it’s not as boring as it sounds.
Each of us develops their own special style of anger:
- The random crazy driver- He who yells, curses, and shows gestures to other drivers when there’s a mistake from the other driver.
- The Silent one- This person sits quietly without looking at anyone thus, talking is out of question.
- Safe Side Abuser- This person lets his\her anger out on the people he\she loves.
- The Wise one- This person distracts himself by ignoring the cause of his anger.
-The Blamer- This person will blame others for their own shortcomings.
-The Thrower- This person will throw everything at sight when angry. Therefore, I fit in that category just perfect.
-The jealous one- This person tries to harm others because of their jealousy issues or would cause some serious damage by using manipulative methods to trick them into doing something immoral. I am serious!
-The Avenger- This person will feel the need to settle his scores with the person who caused his\her anger to rise.
Now, which category do you fit in?
Cure to my anger is two people in my life who can just calm me down no matter how angry I am. I could burst into flames, have murderous thoughts in mind, or scream my lungs out; those two people can throw water into my flames, stop me from criminal thoughts, and help me save my lungs. I am referring to my friend Moe and my cousin Rima. When I feel angry I scream my words at them, and they will find the perfect solution just by their humour or style of talking. I am neither the silent angry girl nor the avenger type. I do not keep grudges; my anger issues are temporary and can fly away in minutes depending on how serious it is. Thus, when you have your loved ones to comfort you, it can never be that serious.
So, what is your cure to anger?
I got some solutions to those who are the crazy angry monsters. Those who get angry real quick and can’t seem to have control over their anger should try to be the wise one mentioned above. They should talk to their loved ones or jot their feelings down on a journal. One could always look at the positive side and ignore the cause of their anger. Try to let it go, keep it easy and let it be. So, here is the ending of this blog with the thoughts of today:
Life is too short to be angry and waste time on unnecessary things that leads one to the path of destruction. So, next time you feel angry, slap it across the face and kick its butt out because it is just not worth it.
Many people go through the phrase of feeling the crazy psychotic anger.People get angry because they strive to right the wrong they are doing. Others get annoyed and cranky easily, in that case, that would be me! However, the question is what is anger? Anger is the unpleasant kind of human emotion, at least, its how I feel. I hate feeling angry!!!URGH!! Now, see what I mean? So, moving on with the thought, I want to share few facts about anger that relates to me and the cure of it. I promise I will make this interesting; it’s not as boring as it sounds.
Each of us develops their own special style of anger:
- The random crazy driver- He who yells, curses, and shows gestures to other drivers when there’s a mistake from the other driver.
- The Silent one- This person sits quietly without looking at anyone thus, talking is out of question.
- Safe Side Abuser- This person lets his\her anger out on the people he\she loves.
- The Wise one- This person distracts himself by ignoring the cause of his anger.
-The Blamer- This person will blame others for their own shortcomings.
-The Thrower- This person will throw everything at sight when angry. Therefore, I fit in that category just perfect.
-The jealous one- This person tries to harm others because of their jealousy issues or would cause some serious damage by using manipulative methods to trick them into doing something immoral. I am serious!
-The Avenger- This person will feel the need to settle his scores with the person who caused his\her anger to rise.
Now, which category do you fit in?
Cure to my anger is two people in my life who can just calm me down no matter how angry I am. I could burst into flames, have murderous thoughts in mind, or scream my lungs out; those two people can throw water into my flames, stop me from criminal thoughts, and help me save my lungs. I am referring to my friend Moe and my cousin Rima. When I feel angry I scream my words at them, and they will find the perfect solution just by their humour or style of talking. I am neither the silent angry girl nor the avenger type. I do not keep grudges; my anger issues are temporary and can fly away in minutes depending on how serious it is. Thus, when you have your loved ones to comfort you, it can never be that serious.
So, what is your cure to anger?
I got some solutions to those who are the crazy angry monsters. Those who get angry real quick and can’t seem to have control over their anger should try to be the wise one mentioned above. They should talk to their loved ones or jot their feelings down on a journal. One could always look at the positive side and ignore the cause of their anger. Try to let it go, keep it easy and let it be. So, here is the ending of this blog with the thoughts of today:
Life is too short to be angry and waste time on unnecessary things that leads one to the path of destruction. So, next time you feel angry, slap it across the face and kick its butt out because it is just not worth it.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
About me
Hello everyone!! This is my first time on this blog. I usually keep a personal diary where i write my thoughts. However, I am going to try to be committed to this blog and write and share my thoughts with you all. Before I start posting links to my articles, I want to share few interesting facts about myself. Those of you who know me very well already know that I love cooking, i love bright colors, and love chocolate. LOL! I enjoy reading in my spare time and totally a TV freak. I could watch anything, anytime, anywhere. Lately, I am hooked on, How I met your mother, and total wipeout and the book i am currently reading is called, The Summoning by Kelly Armstrong. I also like to write poems and play badminton. Haha.. unusual!
The motto I follow in life is that you get what you deserve and everything that happens does really happen for a good reason. One should always forgive and try to forget that way there is no hard feelings or grudges. Always try to look at the positives of things and find ways to make yourself feel better when you feel down. I believe, If Allah brings you to it , He will bring you through it. So, stay positive in life and worry as less as possible. Do not hurt people in life, do not complain about people because they may have complaints against you too. Everyone and everything is not perfect and this is why life is so beautiful and we learn so much. No more advices, I will stop here. hehe..
Anyway, I am not a great writer and I will try to make this as fun and interesting as possible. So, please, bear with me. So here is the end of this blog with the thoughts of today.
Life is too short to keep grudges against people, to be greedy, to chose the haram path, to play with someones heart. We should all pray from heart and keep a clean and loving heart so we not taking any guilt or hatred from others in our grave once we dead :) so, like spike lee says, "do the right thing" because in the end your intentions n good deeds count.
Bye all you beautiful people. :)
The motto I follow in life is that you get what you deserve and everything that happens does really happen for a good reason. One should always forgive and try to forget that way there is no hard feelings or grudges. Always try to look at the positives of things and find ways to make yourself feel better when you feel down. I believe, If Allah brings you to it , He will bring you through it. So, stay positive in life and worry as less as possible. Do not hurt people in life, do not complain about people because they may have complaints against you too. Everyone and everything is not perfect and this is why life is so beautiful and we learn so much. No more advices, I will stop here. hehe..
Anyway, I am not a great writer and I will try to make this as fun and interesting as possible. So, please, bear with me. So here is the end of this blog with the thoughts of today.
Life is too short to keep grudges against people, to be greedy, to chose the haram path, to play with someones heart. We should all pray from heart and keep a clean and loving heart so we not taking any guilt or hatred from others in our grave once we dead :) so, like spike lee says, "do the right thing" because in the end your intentions n good deeds count.
Bye all you beautiful people. :)
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