Looks vs. Personality

A Dilemma or Confusion?

When it comes to look vs. personality people come across asking themselves whether they should first go for looks in their mate or his personality. What do you choose?

We often come across people who debate between a person’s look being important than his personality. Have we ever given it a thought, a human being’s personality can cause a big difference in the relationship he carries with his\ her spouse? Or have we ever come to the realization that a person’s good looks may fade while aging or many other reasons. However, personalities are forever given to define a person’s good and bad sides in order for one to like\love him.

While reading a teenage blog and a face book status debate about look and personality. I came across to find myself left at a confused state. Do look matter more than his\her personality? Or that he could look like anything but personality should matter more because you are loving him\her as a person and not for his\her looks. This topic can only get interesting if anything! There could be so many arguments regarding the issue as well as rebuttal argument.

Fact- A whole lot of people would want good looks in their mate. They definitely do not want to wake up from sleep and find themselves saying, why did I get married? However, some people want to only go for looks whether, it is because of their personal reasons or because they like to show off to their buddies about their good looking mate. It could be other reasons such as, they feel comfortable being around a good looking person. Much like in the movies where everything is perfect and you would never find a partner being with another partner who is not much of a big deal in the beauty field.
Interesting fact- I have come across an argument on face book where some people agreed on the statement that good looks are only momentary and personality comes before anything. A person’s look may fade away with aging or for many health issues. He\ She may gain or loose weight. They may turn darker then they were before, there could be a change in their look while they growing up each day, etc. Thus, this argument can go on following these interesting statement one may come up with.

Rules- Looks may matter more to some people as their boyfriend\girlfriend may want to see a change in their look or may loose interest in them because of how much they are not satisfied with how their mate look. They might get attracted to other good looking boys\girls at the end of the day. They might cheat or start meeting other people. Your mate might set up few rules for you regarding good looks. For instance, you must dress this or that way. You have to get a make over, or a new hair cut? Your boyfriend\girlfriend might have so many issues about your appearances that it may lead to a break up. Of course, none of us want a break up because that would not make us happy at all.

He is not what he shows to be- Some girls or boys as a matter of fact, would think emotionally and say they only care about the personality and how his\her heart is. However, have we ever given it a thought that his personality might be fake and he may not turn out to be how he comes out upfront. He may be a psycho, he may have many flaws he is hiding and etc. We can never look down to his heart and find out what is really there. You may think he is a gem of a person but is he really? Or is she? If we could ever really know all about his personality then there would be less break ups and more happy go lucky love stories. However, people may feign about their relationships and feign about who they really are. Thus, look is really out there you get to know him after you find him attractive and that is what some people may go for before they choose personality.

Dilemma- So. Do we really have a solution or a right answer to this? I am not a philosophical writer nor a tricky one who wants to trick your mind and hurt your brain. I definitely do not keep such intentions. This is a interesting topic which is also very confusing to find the right answer to. A Human being’s personality could be a show off, his\ her looks may fade with time, they might not look as gorgeous. However, have we given it a thought that his personality may not remain the same as well? Now, did I really confuse you? What would you choose if you had to choose one? You would be lucky to get both good looks and good personality. However, if you had to choose one would you really choose look over personality or personality over looks?